Coming out

This is how to do it: 5 tips

1. Think about who you want to tell first. Choose someone who you expect to react positively. Someone who won’t pass your secret on straight away. Someone who is a good listener and accepts you as you are.
2. Say you’ve got something important to tell them about yourself. Maybe you want to keep it a secret: ask the other person first if they can keep a secret.
3. Some young people tell their parents first. If your parents don’t react positively, give them time to get used to the idea. You may have been used to it for a while, but it is probably new to your parents.
4. Other people prefer to tell a friend first. Make sure you can trust this person. They may need time to get used to the idea.
5. If you doubt whether someone will react positively to your coming out, ask them first what they think of homosexuality in general.

Not telling anyone

Some young people make a conscious decision not to tell anyone, driven by the fear of losing family or friends, or of being bullied. In some families, homosexuality is ostracized. You might be in danger if you tell them. Does this sound familiar? Seek help from someone you can trust! Perhaps from a family member or friend. Someone who can relate to your story or someone from a support organization like FOKO or Curaçao Pride. 

Support for your parents

Coming out can be a significant moment for your parents. It might come as a surprise, and it’s normal for them to experience a range of emotions. They may need time to adjust to a different idea of the future, and they might also struggle with how to talk about it with others or confront their own biases, even if they aren’t fully aware of them. The good news is, support is available for both you and them during this process. The LGBTQ Parent Support Group offers a place where parents can meet each other, share experiences, and get answers to their questions. The support group can be reached on WhatsApp number +5999 690 9000.

Where to find others

Meeting other gay, lesbian, or bisexual people for the first time can be a powerful experience. It’s a reminder that you’re not alone, and it can be comforting to talk things through with others, especially when you’re unsure. It can provide a sense of support and guidance.

1. The internet is a good place to start.

• Check out the Facebook group, ‘’LGBT Events hosted by Lulu’’.
• Follow FOKO and Curaçao Pride on social media for events.

2. For those 18 years and older, Gaze Bar is an LGBT-Bar in Punda that hosts parties and events.