In love with a transgender person

In love with a transgender person

Are you in love with someone who is transgender? That may take some getting used to. The person you’ve fallen in love with looks different on the outside to what they feel inside. Or perhaps parts of their body are not what you would expect. It can be very confusing for you! But you’re not the only one.

9 tips

Take your partner seriously: Understand that your partner didn’t get to this point without a reason. It won’t just go away.
Seek information: Seek information about transgender so you can understand what it’s about.
Talk to each other: Ask questions. If you’re not sure your partner will answer your questions, say in advance that you understand that.
Talk to friends: Don’t just talk to each other, talk to someone else who you trust. That makes it easier to find out what you feel yourself.
Don’t keep it a secret: Maybe your partner would prefer to keep it a secret, but it’s too big a secret to carry around on your own. Decide together who does and doesn’t need to know.
It’s okay to be confused: It’s understandable that you’re confused and it’s perfectly OK. After a while, you’ll probably feel less confused anyway, as you get to know each other better.
If it’s not working, break up: Do you find it too complicated in the end, or don’t you like the other person as much as you thought? That’s OK. You can break up, if necessary.
Be respectful: Whatever you do, always be respectful towards the other person! Even when you’re unsure yourself, or afraid that your friends will think it’s weird.
Look for others: Get in touch with other young people who are in a relationship with someone who is transgender? Maybe support organizations like FOKO and Curaçao Pride can connect you with like-minded people.