The boundaries check
Are you wondering if what is happening is okay? Do the boundaries check below.
| Which statement matches your situation? Choose either left or right | ||
| I feel like having sex is my choice | <> | I feel like having sex is not my choice |
| Saying no does not make things difficult | <> | Saying no makes things difficult |
| My partner and I have an equal say in what is happening | <> | My partner has more say than I do in what is happening |
| I feel like I am old enough for what’s happening | <> | I feel like I am too young for what is happening |
| I feel like this is a good place or environment for what’s happening | <> | I feel like it’s not appropriate to have sex in this place or environment. |
| I feel happy about what’s happening | <> | I feel sad and undervalued because of what is happening |
Were you on the left side for all 6 statements?
Then it’s completely okay.
Were you on the right side for 1 or more statements?
Then you need to make sure the situation changes, because then it is not good for you. Then it is sex that makes you feel sad or inferior or that you are just not ready for. You deserve so much more than that.
Sex is much more fun if
- You both want it
- No one is forced
- It’s on an equal footing
- It suits your age
- It fits in that environment
- It doesn’t make you feel sad or undervalued
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