What about the other person’s boundaries?
Consent is a two-way street. Just like your boundaries matter, so do theirs.
How do you know what someone else wants?
Negative signals (they might not want to continue)
- They don’t kiss back or seem distant
- They turn away or avoid physical contact
- They make excuses to avoid sex
- You always have to initiate – they never do
- They seem uncomfortable or unenthusiastic
Positive signals (they’re into it)
- They make eye contact and flirt with you
- They touch you back and seem excited
- They initiate kissing or sex
- They actively enjoy being close to you
But remember: signals aren’t always clear—so ask!
Good questions to ask
- “Do you want to do this?”
- “What feels good for you?”
- “Is this okay?”
Consent can change
A yes can turn into a no at any time. Maybe someone was into it at first but then started feeling uncomfortable.
Pay attention and be ready to stop if:
- They suddenly seem less into it
- They start pulling away or hesitating
- They say they’re tired, not feeling well, or just not in the mood anymore
Listening to and respecting their signals shows that you care.
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