Watching Porn

Understanding porn 

There are different types of porn: soft porn, which is more suggestive and leaves something to the imagination, and hard porn, which shows explicit sexual acts. However, no matter the type, always remember: porn is not real life. 

Porn is often scripted and involves actors. The actors may have enhanced bodies or engage in extreme scenarios that are far from typical in real relationships. That’s okay in the context of fantasy, but don’t expect your own experiences to be the same. 

Key things to remember

1. Porn is fantasy: It’s not the same as real-life sex, and it doesn’t reflect all the diverse ways people experience intimacy 
2. Real-life sex is different: Don’t compare your body to porn actors. They often use special effects, makeup, or surgery, and what you see on-screen isn’t an accurate portrayal of most people 
3. Porn isn’t always respectful: A lot of online porn can be anti-female or reinforce unhealthy gender norms. You can fantasize whatever you like, but it’s important to understand that fantasy and reality are different 
4. Porn can become an addiction: If you feel like you’re watching more and more, or seeking more extreme material, it might be time to take a break and reflect on your reasons for watching it 

10 facts about porn 

1. Porn is not real sex: Remember that actors are pretending. What you see isn’t how most people experience intimacy 
2. Sex is better when it’s simple: Real relationships are about mutual respect, communication, and having fun together. Focus on what you and your partner enjoy 
3. Don’t compare yourself: Porn actors look the way they do because of cameras and editing. Don’t stress about how you or your partner look 
4. Use protection: Unlike in porn, real-life sex should always include protection, like condoms, to prevent STIs and unplanned pregnancies 
5. Take your time: In real life, things don’t need to be rushed. Have open conversations with your partner about what you both enjoy 
6. Sex should be mutual: In porn, it often seems like only one partner is enjoying themselves. In real life, both partners should be equally excited and respected 
7. It’s okay to take your time: Women may take longer to feel aroused, and so do many men. Patience and communication are key 
8. Love and connection are important: In real-life relationships, love and respect are essential. Sex isn’t just about physical pleasure, but about emotional connection too 
9. Always respect boundaries: In porn, there’s often no emphasis on consent or boundaries. In real life, always communicate and respect each other’s comfort zones 
10. Anal sex is not for everyone: Anal sex is not a must, even though it looks like it is in porn. Not everyone enjoys it. If you’re curious, communicate openly with your partner, and remember to always use protection and plenty of lubrication.