What do you want

What do you want

If you decide to have sex, what do you want to do? And what are your limits? Everyone has their own boundaries and desires when it comes to intimacy. It’s important to understand what you enjoy and what you’re not comfortable with. Not sure yet? That’s okay! You don’t need to have all the answers right away- figuring it out takes time.

Does it feel right for you?
Kissing, touching, having sex—whatever you’re doing, the most important question is: Does this feel good to you? Do you want to continue? Are you enjoying it? If yes, great! But if something feels uncomfortable or you’re unsure, it’s okay to pause or stop. If you don’t like how your partner is touching you, the best thing to do is speak up, even if it feels difficult.

Use your imagination
Many people have fantasies about love and sex, and that’s completely normal. Thinking about what excites you can help you learn more about your desires. If you’re curious to explore something, it’s important to make sure it feels safe and comfortable for you.

Want to kiss but not have sex? That’s okay!
You don’t have to do anything you’re not ready for. Maybe you’re in a relationship but don’t feel like having sex. Or maybe you enjoy kissing and touching but aren’t in the mood for penetrative sex. That’s completely okay! Communicate what you want, and your partner should respect that. No one should pressure you into doing something you don’t feel comfortable with.

What about your partner?
Do you know what your partner enjoys? Sometimes you can tell from their body language, but sometimes you can’t. If you’re unsure, ask! Talking about what you both like can help you have a better, more respectful experience together.

Saying no is always okay
If something doesn’t feel right, you have every right to say no or stop at any time – even in the middle of something. Saying “No” or “Stop” should always be respected. Sometimes, you only realize you’re uncomfortable when something is already happening. If that happens, stop and talk about it. Your feelings matter, and a caring partner will listen.