Reflect on your boundaries and wants 

1. Do you really want to? 

Ask yourself: Am I doing this because I truly want to, or because I feel pressured? You should never feel forced, rushed, or like you have to do it to keep someone happy. 

2. Do you feel emotionally ready? 

Sex can bring up emotions like excitement, love, nervousness, or even regret. Are you ready to handle the emotional side of sex? Are you comfortable talking about your feelings with your partner? 

3. Do you understand consent? 

Both you and your partner should enthusiastically say “yes” to sex – without pressure, guilt, or fear. Consent is ongoing, meaning you can change your mind at any time. 

4. Have you talked about STIs and pregnancy? 

Do you know how to protect yourself from STIs and unplanned pregnancy? Have you and your partner discussed condoms and contraception? 

5. Do you feel safe & respected? 

You deserve to be with someone who respects your boundaries, listens to you, and makes you feel safe. If you feel pressured or uncomfortable, that’s a sign that you may not be ready- or that the person isn’t right for you. 

6. Are you educated about sex & your body? 

Understanding how sex works and what to expect can help you feel more confident. If you still have big questions or fears, it might help to learn more before making a decision. 

7. Do you know you can say no?  

Being ready for sex also means being ready to say no if the situation doesn’t feel right. You should never feel like you “owe” someone sex. 

Remember! 

Only you can decide when you’re ready, and there’s no rush. It’s okay to wait, change your mind, or take your time. If you’re unsure, that’s a sign to pause and think more about what’s best for you.